Gay Marriage and NJ

In a state that's known for it's dirty beaches, smelly air, over crowded highways and a reality TV show that portrays them as a bunch of dumb ass meatheads, now New Jersey could add at least 20 closed mind, bigot senators to the list which makes the garden state more and more less appealing.

Today the NJ state Senate denied gay people the right to marry, very much like the way this country's dark past denied blacks to marry whites, women to vote and black children to attend "white schools". This is one more example of how we didn't learn from our past. It's one more example of how hate and ignorance still runs through our country so deep that most of the civilized world sees it as one more reason this great country has lost it's legacy as the "land of the free".

After the vote was announced that the bill was defeated, the room broke into applause. To me that was a show of so much lack of respect to the many who held on to the dreams of marrying the ones that the love. It was a slap in the face.

I stated to a fellow blogger that the ONLY comfort I get from these "people" clapping on video because of the bills defeat is that in the future, when the world sees everyone as equal, they will look back at that video and portray these senators as part of the ignorant and bigots that held back people's rights in the early 21st century.

How To Keep Those Resolutions Alive.

Ok, we're five days into the new year. On day one, many of us have made "New Year's Resolutions". By day five, many of us have broken or didn't even start what we promised ourselves.

Now don't come down to hard on yourself. This is actually a common thing. A whopping 92% of people don't keep their New Year's resolutions. 45% of them fail by teh end of the first month of the new year.

I don't want you sitting there reading this and thinking the "new you" is doomed, because it's not. Here are a few helpful hints to make sure you're one of the 8% that successfully keep the promises they made to themselves.

1.) Don't put to many pebbles in your basket.
One of the biggest mistakes people make when thinking of resolutions is that they make to many. Think about it people. You're changing something about you. One thing is tough enough so why would you want to make six or seven? Keep the number low so you could really work on it. Choose something really important about you that you want to change. Don't set the goals to high and plan it out.

2.) Keep your big mouth opened.
Tell your close friends and family about your goals. Yap away about it to your wife, husband, co-worker or neighbor. This way you'll have people keeping an eye on you and asking you about how you're coming along. After all, you always want to look like a winner in the eyes of people.

3. If you hit a bump in the road, keep going.
Many people slip up on their resolutions and just give up afterwards. If you mess up, just pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep at it. Just get back on track. One bump doesn't spoil the ride.

4. Rewards are awesome.
If you're trying to save money and you pass on buying that $400 hand bag then go out and celebrate by joining a friend for a quick lunch. Trust me, it's a lot cheeper then some over priced, pretty now but ugly in a year, handbad. If you're trying to lose weight and you lose a few pounds then go out and buy something that you could wear or something that makes you feel good. NO, I'm not talking a triple layered brownie with ice cream. I'm talking maybe something for the shower or a massage. You get my point.

5. Break the habit by making it a habit.
Now that my sound a little confusing but it's not. Research shows that it takes 21 days for a new activity to become a habit, such as exercising. It takes six months for it to become part of your life style and personality. Now the bad habit you are trying to lose probably was with you a lot longer then six months so this isn't a lot of time to hold in there so go for it.

I hope these little pieces of information help out in your quest to keep your goals. I wish you all the best luck. Drop me a comment on your resolutions and how you're keeping up.

Peace out.